It robs your relationship, such that it is, of genuine positivity. Over time, the way they invalidate you and keep you off balance wears down your self-esteem. They will be inappropriately or hurtfully competitive, persistently critical, unfavorable comparisons, subtly humiliating, and more. For years, your mother or father may make it a habit to put you down, making it clear that they are superior and in control. To put it mildly, you will not experience honest communication from a narcissistic parent. After what they endured, trust in others did not come so easy. They needed help letting down their walls and allowing someone in. Others were at the opposite end of the spectrum. Many of my clients have struggled to strengthen weak, wobbly or non-existent boundaries. Inadequate boundaries are one of the most challenging traits of children with narcissistic parents. In a sense, boundary issues are the hallmark of early trauma. Guilt and manipulation are common ways that your boundaries are breached. Their wishes and demands are framed as something you owe them and should want to do. In fact, a narcissistic parent is adept at making their kid feel guilty for even daring to set a healthy boundary. As a result, they will not respect the boundaries their child sets. Ī narcissist seems incapable of recognizing that other people have needs. If so, they likely squelched and sidelined your talents, interests, and growth and kept the focus on their dreams.īeing raised around someone who takes up all the psychic space can lead a person to feel chronic shame, worthlessness and unimportance. Worse, they often view their child’s increasing independence and autonomy as a threat to their own interests. They’ll demand your attention while neglecting your needs. The word that comes to mind is “grandiose.” The narcissistic parent will exaggerate and lie about themselves. 6 Common Traits of a Narcissistic Parent and The Trauma Symptoms They Can Cause 1. Below I’ve described some damaging traits their caretakers had and the traumatic effects which led shaped the traits of children with narcissistic parents. And it’s easy to see how being exposed to them could be traumatizing to a child. Obviously these are all highly stressful life situations. The parents they described sounded as if they were highly self absorbed, and had difficult life situations, and perhaps other mental and emotional disorders.These drove their high levels of self absorption and emotional immaturity. Most of them described to me how their early life with their narcissistic mother and father cast a long shadow across their lifespan. Over the last 20+ years as a practicing psychotherapist, I’ve seen a large number of trauma survivors in my practice. A giant first step? Learning more about narcissism, trauma bonding and how it may have shaped your life. Like a poison that takes years to clear your system, the toxic impact of these early relationships seeps into adulthood and taints adult relationships.įortunately, trauma can be resolved. And sadly, many adult children of narcissists may not be aware until many years (and much pain) later. This abuse can be physical and/or emotional. They spent their “ordinary” family life dodging the slings and arrows of narcissistic abuse. The child of a narcissistic parent faces more red flags than they can name. Many Refer To Themselves As “Survivors Of Narcissistic Parents”
Traits of Children With Narcissistic Parents In this case, family life and it’s inevitable conflict looks nothing like a T.V. A particularly dangerous example involves the presence of a highly narcissistic parent. However, there are instances where things go far past the normal family pitfalls. We expect it, accept it, and, for the most part, manage it. This is not exactly breaking news and has been the premise of many a pop culture offering.
These scars can be thought of as common traits of children with narcissistic parentsĮvery parent-child relationship involves some amount of occasional conflict, stress and confusion. But the traumatizing effects of being raised by a narcissist leaves psychic scars which drive many into therapy later in life.
It’s well known that narcissistic exposure can damage an adult badly enough.
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Others have full blown narcissistic personality disorder. While many people have narcissistic traits, some people have personalities that are highly narcissistic. When it comes to narcissism, there is a spectrum of severity.
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